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My biggest struggle [before coaching] was discovering the source of my frustration – my growing discontent with the sensation of feeling “stuck” – and how to act upon it by examining my values and what I want in life. I was feeling confused. I was not sure where to begin. I immediately noticed [in working with Soken] that I was able to be more aware. I was paying more attention to life and how I live it as opposed to feeling like a bystander, and I started to welcome a sense of compassion that I felt I had become estranged with. There was a particular moment where I realized that I wanted to do more good in the world, and that I had as much agency as ever to do so. We had a call where I began to open up about things which brought me joy and I felt as if I was seeing a future that I previously hadn't thought possible - but now felt within reach. I feel like I am now on a path, with a plan. I have direction and can move forward, and enjoy the journey as opposed to feeling frustrated from not having one. Coaching will help you understand the way you view life, uncover your truths, disprove limiting beliefs, reconnect with love, and aid in forging a path where you can be resolute in carrying out your purpose.

I didn’t really know what coaching was, so I was hesitant about it. The turning point for me was feeling like I really had to make a change. I knew I needed reliable objective guidance to help me see beyond my own thinking. I didn’t want therapy, which looks backward. I wanted to look forward. I needed something creative, energizing, and action-orientated. Soken held a space for me so I could ask—and gain insight and answers to—the pressing questions that had been plaguing me for a long time, especially what my next big steps ought to be with certain friendships, career moves, and personal development. Coaching with Soken also allowed me the time and space I needed to seriously think about what I needed, the kind of life I wanted, and what I envisioned for myself. I've since continued this journey of self-reflection and I can only say I'm better because of the time I spent working through these questions and establishing a deep foundation for growth and reflection with Soken.

Coaching with Bodhi Heart is full of heart, muscle, and brains! I was struggling with turning my vision into concrete steps and clarifying my goals. At first, I was intimidated by coaching but immediately I noticed Soken was so easy to speak with, he listened really well and was able to reiterate my agenda and interpret them simply and intuitively. Right from the beginning I felt listened to, making it easy to make progress with this work. Within the first two weeks we had a series of short-term goals that felt (and were) achievable, even during an especially busy time. Soken is enthusiastic, but he really does listen well, and is empathetic to all the pressures of life on people. His expectations were solidly focused on my personal satisfaction with our progress, and not unrealistic or overachieving. I feel infinitely more focused and capable of setting goals and plotting a pathway to achieve them. Clarifying these took patience and time, and Soken was an integral guide in that process. I strongly recommend this process, Soken has a firm grasp of how to elicit intentions and how to move from there towards goals. For me these are long term goals, but along the way we found short-term, achievable objectives that made the journey incredibly productive and satisfying. I highly recommend Soken Graf for coaching. He helped me build my confidence, clarify my goals, and establish a pattern of success that led to me knowing I can build my dreams, no matter how big!

Working with Soken is an essential part of my spiritual and physical health. After years of experiencing the physical benefits of Rolfing, and the mental benefits that come with living a pain-free life, I embarked on a series of spiritual coaching sessions during the pandemic. Working more deeply with Soken in the midst of such a tumultuous time in the world, during which I began exploring a career transition and possible relocation, has created the space for me to reflect and change certain long-held behaviors, beliefs and judgments while looking ahead with clear eyes. Soken’s wisdom, compassion, and light make this an amazing experience that meets you where you are, giving you invaluable and sound tools for growth and self-care. I can't recommend Soken highly enough.

My experience with coaching so far has been unexpectedly great! My biggest struggle that transformed as a result of coaching was changing my uncreative thought patterns. Prior to coaching, I felt like I was stuck in a negative story. When we first started working together, Soken helped me see my goals and was very generous in the process. One day after coaching, I experienced a moment of clearheaded positive projection like when drains drain again. I'm very grateful and it's continued. I now feel what was depressing uncertainty around me is rather a cloud with boundaries and a source of inspiration—and it can be experienced differently and made so much better and more beautiful. I’m in a happier place with my work and can’t even begin to express my thankfulness for this. Soken is a well of incredible knowledge. He gives an example of non-judgmental and creative hopefulness. It's been really fun as well. I laughed as much as thought deeply and better. I am very grateful I had the chance.

I had been battling a mysterious illness and I thought I knew what was important to me — my career. But, what I learned [in a series of coaching conversations] was that I needed to focus on my health, so that I could get back to the people and things that mattered to me — which is making other people’s lives better. I had seen a lot of doctors, therapists and nutritionists. I left many of those sessions in tears and confused. With coaching, I always felt the opposite - energized and clear on what I needed to do. Our [coaching] sessions inspired me to take action. And even more than that, it empowered me to look for different actions I could take within certain situations. Instead of going round and round with a situation, I found strategies to move forward, and as a result I feel much better. Coaching is helpful in that you get an outside perspective — someone who offers empathy and powerful questions — and you get to know yourself better than you did before. And you’re in control, you still get to make your own choices. If a friend asked me about coaching, I would support them 100%. I think it can be incredibly helpful. My health has improved in a way that sometimes brings me to tears. And at work, I have been approved for a promotion. These sessions helped me heal, and I’m looking forward to the future.